“Siblings who grow up with a different father grow up crooked and in a home with no structure.”
“Men who don’t grow up in a two parent home never learn how to treat women because of what they saw growing up.”
These are two comments I read one day while on Instagram under a post which read “I want to have all my children by one man. Is that even common anymore? What’s wrong with our generation?”
Now ponder on those statements and think about some individuals you personally know who grew up in a two parent home, a one parent home, or a home in which they lived with mother/stepfather and visa versa.
Those statements had me feeling many different ways. Offended? No! Appalled? Yes! I don’t understand where some people come up with such conclusions because those are not facts. Yes I believe everyone should want to marry first, then have kids. However, it does not always work out that way. Having children out of wedlock definitely does not make you any less of a human being.
A two parent home is indeed always better than a one parent home. However, a child could turn out “crooked” either way. Just because a man does not have his father around or both parents in the same home, does not mean he can not learn how to treat a woman. A persons behavior is not always a result of how they were raised. This is so because I have witnessed the seemingly perfect family on the outside, turn out to be living in turmoil on the inside.
Society, in my opinion, plays a bigger role in a persons actions and the decisions they choose to make. Most of the time it’s about impressing peers. Yes, the things they witnessed at home growing up could have an affect on their adulthood, but not always. Also these things are not just generational. These things such as having kids out of wedlock, have been going on for decades. In earlier times it was absolutely unacceptable, so they would find many ways to hide it. Now it’s like these things are perfectly fine because sadly we are accustomed to it.
Life is about making mistakes and using those mistakes to make you a better person. Your past is just a stomping ground for your future. Learn from the mistakes of the past and keep going! People, like the individuals whom made the statements I referred to earlier, should be wise with their words and remember everything that glitters isn’t gold!
Judge not, that ye be not judged. For with what judgment ye judge, ye shall be judged: and with what measure ye mete, it shall be measured to you again. And why beholdest thou the mote that is in thy brother’s eye, but considerest not the beam that is in thine own eye? Or how wilt thou say to thy brother, Let me pull out the mote out of thine eye; and, behold, a beam is in thine own eye? Thou hypocrite, first cast out the beam out of thine own eye; and then shalt thou see clearly to cast out the mote out of thy brother’s eye. (Matthew 7:1-5 KJV)
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